Tuesday, June 30, 2015

What's Gay Marriage Got To Do (With You)?

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On June 26, the US Supreme Court ruled that same-sex couples in the United States are allowed to get married, making US the 17th country in the world to legalize gay marriage.

This news was widely celebrated by the LGBT community worldwide, as well as all those who support marriage equality. However, there are a minority few who seem to think that the ruling would somehow threatened the sanctity of their marriage, would turn their children gay, anger the Lord Almighty and is against the Bible's teaching, and worse: starting to boycott those who supports marriage equality and gay rights.

To all those haters out there, here's what I think:

Honestly, I don't see how two men or two women's marriage has anything to do with your marriage. Well, that is unless you somehow knew that your husband/wife is gay all along and he/she was forced to married you because of social pressure, and has gone on countless "fishing trips" with his/her "best friend" without their fishing rods (ala "Brokeback Mountain"), then I can see how that might be a problem for you. But your fear of losing your closeted husband/wife really has nothing to do with what other openly gay homosexual couple are allowed to do. I would really suggest you seek help from a marriage counsellor instead.

To those who felt that gay marriage would turn your children gay, you should really snap out of it. I'm gay. I'm surrounded by straight friends who had straight marriages but I still turn out to be gay. I've watched straight porn when I was a kid, and I can safely tell you, the sight of a woman's bouncing boobs or her dripping wet clitoris does not turn me on. It's like an anti-Viagra that worked so effectively, I could've sworn my penis shrunk a few millimeters at the sight of it. (Which would explain why my size was previously below average. Thank goodness my boyfriend years later, who managed to fluff it back into shape, but that's a whole new story all together...) We are gay because we are born that way. If you really wanted to do the finger pointing, maybe you should blame the straight couple who kept giving birth to us gorgeous, smart and talented gay children.

I think the worse of the haters out there are those self-righteous religion-crazed people, who judges others when they are taught not to, claiming that the Bible (or the variation said religious book(s)) says that homosexuality is a sin and marriage is only for a non-homosexual man and a non-homosexual woman (or something like that). The fact is, these people aren't listening to the most important thing that the God has been trying to tell them all these while: Everyone is created equal.

Although they kept insisting that the Holy Book mentioned that homosexuality is a sin, they seem to be forgetting that it also contain other verses that these people chose to downright ignore. Just to list a few:

- "If it is discovered that a bride is not a virgin, the Bible demands that she be executed by stoning immediately." Deuteronomy 22:13-21

- "Divorce is strictly forbidden in both Testaments, as is remarriage of anyone who has been divorced." Mark 10:1-12

- "If a man dies childless, his widow is ordered by biblical law to have intercourse with each of his brothers in turn until she bears her deceased husband a male heir." Mark 12:18-27

- "Do not plant your field with two different kinds of seed. Do not wear clothing woven from two different kinds of thread." Leviticus 19:19

- "If a man sells his daughter as a female slave, she is not to go free as the male slaves do." Exodus 21:7

- "You are to slaughter the young bull before the LORD...You are to skin the burnt offering and cut it into pieces...You are to wash the internal organs and the legs with water, and the priest is to burn all of it on the altar. It is a burnt offering, a food offering, an aroma pleasing to the LORD." Leviticus 1:5-9

...the list goes on.

We don't see these people speaking up about these issues above? Why are they so quiet about it? A lot of of my friends lost their virginity long way before their marriage, I don't see their husbands stoning them to death. People are still allowed to divorce, why didn't anyone do anything to revoke that law? Cause I know a few who are practicing the religion, claimed that they are staunch Christian who are very much against the gay community but they are already divorced, and living well. Does that make them a bunch of religiously blind hypocrites, or should be waiting for the day that God will smite them with His/Her wrath. Also, I don't see them influencing others to get a divorce. Those married couple around them still seem to be happily married. Why is that so?

I also have a friend whose husband had died in the most unfortunate circumstances, should I remind her that she needs to have sex with her brother-in-law until she's pregnant? Or how no burnt offerings that contains "aroma pleasing to the Lord" is being widely practice in the Christian community anymore. And even don't me started on how there are so few garments in the market these days that are made 100% of the same material! Even your underwear is a mesh of cotton with polyester, bamboo or whatever that is the latest in fabric technology.

As for those who wanted to boycott everything gay, I'd like to remind that you that computer science is developed by someone gay. So you're so very against it, you cut yourself away from all the technological gadgets and let's see how you're able to fit into the world today.

I guess at the end of the day, what I am trying to say is, we are we we are. You are who you are. We are not trying to change you, and we are certainly not going to change your children for any of the future generations into what they are not. They will be who they are destined to be.

We are all human beings who are already trying very hard to make it in this vast world. Struggling and going through different obstacles in each and every of our own life. Regardless of your belief or religion, it is God's given test to all of us to see how we make it in our own life. We are not taught to mind other people's business, and we are certainly not taught to judge others.

When someone makes it in life, you are happy for him/her. When we read in the news that something good happened to someone and they're happy, we are happy for them. So why can't you be happy for another just because he/she is LGBT? Just because you are miserable and had a miserable life doesn't mean that everyone else around you would have to go through and suffer the miserable life that you went through. Try to be happy for others for once, and you will find that the world is a much better place without hate, that you too will become a better person.

As Shakespeare once wrote, "There is nothing either good or bad, thinking makes it so." Think positively, and you shall live a positive life.

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