Love Equation

Awhile back, someone gave me something that look sort-of like an equation to love. According to this person:

Relationship will leads to sex;
No relationship = No sex
No sex = No good communication
No good communication= No love
No love = No trust
No trust = No marriage
No marriage= No kid
No kid = No responsibility
No responsibility = No happy life

Seemingly weird, I told another friend of mine about the equation and asked for his opinion, I got another equation:

No sex = No long term relationship
No long term relationship = No communications
No communication = No trust/love

I guess to different people, the equation might be different, but here's what I think:

Love is not exactly an equation but a procedure. It's like baking a cake. You have your ingredients, your recipe to follow and with the right timing, you'll have yourself a successful, presentable and (most importantly) edible cake.

You can choose not to follow the recipe, but there's a high chance your cake might not come out like the picture in your recipe book. Heck, sometimes even if you follow the procedure, your cake might not turn out the way you want it to be! On rare occasions, some can bake the best cake in the world with just one try; others will have to try and try again before the perfect cake is baked.

Love is like that. If you fail, you try again, and again (if you have to), until you get it right.

You might take a few short cuts here and there and cheat a little bit in the amount of ingredients you use, hoping that your cake will still come out the same. Sometimes it does, some times it doesn't.

To me, the procedure works this way:

First the avowal, the date, the holding hands, the inevitable kiss,
more dates, and more kisses, and then, when the time is right, sex.

As long as the procedure is right, it doesn't matter whether there’s a happy ending in the end. Of course, if there is, all the better.

A Jessism © 24022006

Memories...

If you read this, if your eyes are passing over this right now, even if we don't speak often, please post a comment with a memory of you and me. It can be anything you want, either good or bad. I promise not to go after you with a pistol despite what you say.

February

February has been a quite a month.

First there's CNY, which I finally show face after skipping it last year. The result was a fantastic reunion dinner with my mother's side of the family and a couple of long chatty catch-up sessions with a couple of my cousins which I haven't seen for ages. (Okay, not literally "ages", but it sure felt like forever…) Then there's the expensive air tickets. To avoid the agony of having to sit in a bus for 32 hours (to and fro), I decided to take a flight. The trip cost me close to RM800!! Of course, it burst my monthly budget. Thank god February is a short month!

After CNY is the dreadful day where flowers are as expensive as a bowl of shark's fin soup; the day where your partner will literally kill you if you don't get him/her a gift; the day where boyfriends worldwide spend big-bucks trying to impress his other half; the day where I rejected someone who likes me.

Yeap. I actually said 'no' to someone who asked me out for a dinner date on Valentine's Day. Call me mean, call me rude, call me heartless, but I'm just trying to be honest. I don't want to be giving false hope to the poor fella when I feel nothing could happen between us. Yes, this person is nice to me, drives me back from work and all that. But the timing is just not right. I can't be going out with someone when I'm still trying to get over another. Yes, there's an "another", who, very unfortunate for me, is already taken. That's just the way life is, isn't it? The best candidate is always someone else's other half.

Of course there are the endless work that just keep flowing in.

February is just too short to get anything done. It's like that one month of the year where it's just too short for you to do anything concrete. Before you know it, it's ending soon. What have you done this February?

A Jessism © 17022006

Straight Men Who Likes Gay Porn

I understand that all straight men have a fascination with lesbian porn. It's true! Two girls making out and doing whatever-two-girls-can-do-to-sexually-please-the-other-girl turn them on! What I don't understand is: WHY THE HELL WOULD A STRAIGHT MAN WATCH GAY PORN?!?

I know all you straight men out there would probably be saying: I would never do that. EVER. Yeah, right!

I recently discovered that couple of my very straight straight friends watch gay porn. Not only watch, one of the bugger even downloads them from time to time for his viewing pleasure! No, they’re NOT bisexual. They just happen to be a bunch of "straight" guys who like to watch gay porn. (Doesn't sound all that convincingly straight isn't it?)

I can understand why straight women watches gay porn: because the guys in there are cute, or maybe they have the same fantasy straight men have with lesbian porn. I can still understand lesbians who like gay porn. But straight men who likes gay porn???

Talking to a friend of mine, he caught his first exposure of gay porn when he downloaded supposedly "something kinky that involved a girl", which unfortunately (for him) turns out to be gay porn. Instead of switching it off right away, he actually watches it! When asked why he watches it, his exact reply was: "seeing someone else do the dirty ain't as bad"?? He even claimed that "it's damn interesting"?? I really don't get this at all. Straight men flinch at the thought of men kissing each other, but it's ok to watch two men having sex??

I didn't ask him to go into details, but... WHICH PART OF GAY PORN WOULD SEEM INTERESTING TO A STRAIGHT GUY??? His rationality was: "lets put it this way... (sex) between 2 humans is more natural than 1 human 1 animal..." Okay, that I have to agree.

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