What's Gay Marriage Got To Do (With You)?

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On June 26, the US Supreme Court ruled that same-sex couples in the United States are allowed to get married, making US the 17th country in the world to legalize gay marriage.

This news was widely celebrated by the LGBT community worldwide, as well as all those who support marriage equality. However, there are a minority few who seem to think that the ruling would somehow threatened the sanctity of their marriage, would turn their children gay, anger the Lord Almighty and is against the Bible's teaching, and worse: starting to boycott those who supports marriage equality and gay rights.

To all those haters out there, here's what I think:

Honestly, I don't see how two men or two women's marriage has anything to do with your marriage. Well, that is unless you somehow knew that your husband/wife is gay all along and he/she was forced to married you because of social pressure, and has gone on countless "fishing trips" with his/her "best friend" without their fishing rods (ala "Brokeback Mountain"), then I can see how that might be a problem for you. But your fear of losing your closeted husband/wife really has nothing to do with what other openly gay homosexual couple are allowed to do. I would really suggest you seek help from a marriage counsellor instead.

To those who felt that gay marriage would turn your children gay, you should really snap out of it. I'm gay. I'm surrounded by straight friends who had straight marriages but I still turn out to be gay. I've watched straight porn when I was a kid, and I can safely tell you, the sight of a woman's bouncing boobs or her dripping wet clitoris does not turn me on. It's like an anti-Viagra that worked so effectively, I could've sworn my penis shrunk a few millimeters at the sight of it. (Which would explain why my size was previously below average. Thank goodness my boyfriend years later, who managed to fluff it back into shape, but that's a whole new story all together...) We are gay because we are born that way. If you really wanted to do the finger pointing, maybe you should blame the straight couple who kept giving birth to us gorgeous, smart and talented gay children.

I think the worse of the haters out there are those self-righteous religion-crazed people, who judges others when they are taught not to, claiming that the Bible (or the variation said religious book(s)) says that homosexuality is a sin and marriage is only for a non-homosexual man and a non-homosexual woman (or something like that). The fact is, these people aren't listening to the most important thing that the God has been trying to tell them all these while: Everyone is created equal.

Although they kept insisting that the Holy Book mentioned that homosexuality is a sin, they seem to be forgetting that it also contain other verses that these people chose to downright ignore. Just to list a few:

- "If it is discovered that a bride is not a virgin, the Bible demands that she be executed by stoning immediately." Deuteronomy 22:13-21

- "Divorce is strictly forbidden in both Testaments, as is remarriage of anyone who has been divorced." Mark 10:1-12

- "If a man dies childless, his widow is ordered by biblical law to have intercourse with each of his brothers in turn until she bears her deceased husband a male heir." Mark 12:18-27

- "Do not plant your field with two different kinds of seed. Do not wear clothing woven from two different kinds of thread." Leviticus 19:19

- "If a man sells his daughter as a female slave, she is not to go free as the male slaves do." Exodus 21:7

- "You are to slaughter the young bull before the LORD...You are to skin the burnt offering and cut it into pieces...You are to wash the internal organs and the legs with water, and the priest is to burn all of it on the altar. It is a burnt offering, a food offering, an aroma pleasing to the LORD." Leviticus 1:5-9

...the list goes on.

We don't see these people speaking up about these issues above? Why are they so quiet about it? A lot of of my friends lost their virginity long way before their marriage, I don't see their husbands stoning them to death. People are still allowed to divorce, why didn't anyone do anything to revoke that law? Cause I know a few who are practicing the religion, claimed that they are staunch Christian who are very much against the gay community but they are already divorced, and living well. Does that make them a bunch of religiously blind hypocrites, or should be waiting for the day that God will smite them with His/Her wrath. Also, I don't see them influencing others to get a divorce. Those married couple around them still seem to be happily married. Why is that so?

I also have a friend whose husband had died in the most unfortunate circumstances, should I remind her that she needs to have sex with her brother-in-law until she's pregnant? Or how no burnt offerings that contains "aroma pleasing to the Lord" is being widely practice in the Christian community anymore. And even don't me started on how there are so few garments in the market these days that are made 100% of the same material! Even your underwear is a mesh of cotton with polyester, bamboo or whatever that is the latest in fabric technology.

As for those who wanted to boycott everything gay, I'd like to remind that you that computer science is developed by someone gay. So you're so very against it, you cut yourself away from all the technological gadgets and let's see how you're able to fit into the world today.

I guess at the end of the day, what I am trying to say is, we are we we are. You are who you are. We are not trying to change you, and we are certainly not going to change your children for any of the future generations into what they are not. They will be who they are destined to be.

We are all human beings who are already trying very hard to make it in this vast world. Struggling and going through different obstacles in each and every of our own life. Regardless of your belief or religion, it is God's given test to all of us to see how we make it in our own life. We are not taught to mind other people's business, and we are certainly not taught to judge others.

When someone makes it in life, you are happy for him/her. When we read in the news that something good happened to someone and they're happy, we are happy for them. So why can't you be happy for another just because he/she is LGBT? Just because you are miserable and had a miserable life doesn't mean that everyone else around you would have to go through and suffer the miserable life that you went through. Try to be happy for others for once, and you will find that the world is a much better place without hate, that you too will become a better person.

As Shakespeare once wrote, "There is nothing either good or bad, thinking makes it so." Think positively, and you shall live a positive life.



- jessim © 30062015:0035 -

Lost Canadian

So I was on the bus today and there was an Asian lady (probably in her late 40s) who speaks badly broken English, asking everyone on the bus when her next stop is, every few minutes. When all the kind passengers on the bus tried to help her, she told everyone of them that she doesn't understand (any other languages except for English). And when someone who speaks English told her that the stop is still far away, she went on to ask another passenger like she didn't believe what the previous person said. This, I guess, kinda irked some of those who helped her, and soon enough, people just started to ignore her.

All she had was a phone in her hand and an address to SS21/50, which she had no idea where it is. (Don't ask me how she managed to board that bus in the first place.) I took my phone out and started to Google for the street that she mentioned. Turns out that street is just a 5 mins walk away from where I was heading to. So I tapped her on the shoulder and told her that the place is near where I was getting off and I could show her the way if she wanted to. She thanked me and yes. Of course, less than a minute later, she went on to ask another person if he knows where that place is.

Anyway, about 10mins later, we got off the bus and I told her to follow me (while I follow my trusty GPS. xD)

The lady told me that she just came from Canada a few days ago and she's here to visit a relative (or something like that). I don't know how true is this but she claimed that she would normally take a cab and wouldn't have to go through this much of a hassle in finding the place, and apologized to me for having to trouble me to bring her to where she wanted to go.

To thank me, she even gave me her number in Toronto and told me to call her if ever I'm going over, so that she can ask her son (who is supposedly around my age) to show me around. (I was really tempted to ask her how her son looked like and if he's single. xD)

Right when she was telling me how she don't have GPS on her phone and her Canadian-registered phone can't call out. I heard a phone ring from her bag. She had that "busted" look on her face, and started to look for that other phone in her bag. Whoever the person is was probably asking her where she is, where she replied that she had already gotten off the bus and is now heading to the address.

After she hung up, she asked me how far are we and I showed her the GPS tracking that we're just less than 5 minutes away. Still unwilling to trust me, she suggested that we should ask the people around here for directions and went directly towards a few teenagers standing at the sidewalk and asked them if they know where 21/50 is.

They spoke to her in Cantonese, asking her if there are any landmarks, and she gave them the same "I don't know what you're saying. I don't understand" reply. They looked at me and I told them that the lady is lost and she claimed that she don't understand Malay and Chinese. They shook their heads and the lady looked disappointed. I stood aside, waiting for her to ask a few other people before approaching her and showed her the GPS tracking, telling her that the place is just across the street, and finally, she reluctantly followed me.

Worried for my own safety as well, since this lady is acting all suspicious, when we were close enough to see the street name, I pointed the sign out to her and told her that since I don't know which house is she looking for, she should cross the road on her own and head to the house she is visiting.

I told her that she should call the person who contacted her earlier and tell the person to come out and greet her. She said she will and thanked me before I left. But as I was walking away, I caught a glimpse of her approaching another person...I guess she's just not trusting enough? Or maybe there's something else going on? Well, whatever it was, I hope she managed to get to wherever she's going to.

Wonder Woman

Once upon a time, there used to be a beautiful girl with a lot of hopes and dreams. She was talented. She was good at what she does.

She was good with her hands.

She made beautiful clothes that made people look good.

She could've become a fashion designer.

But she didn't.

She got married.

She gave birth to two mischievous kids that turned her world upside down.

Although she stopped making beautiful clothes for people. She continued to make beautiful clothes, blankets, pencil cases, bedsheets, pillow cases, pajamas, and a lot of other beautiful things for her children (despite their constant complain about homemade items).

Little did she know that although they rarely told her that they like it, they loved it.

It was something special. One of a kind.

And mostly importantly: something they could brag about to --- their talented mother.

This girl, never became a renowned fashion designer. She's just an ordinary housewife. But an extraordinary mother: a wonder woman.

A wonder woman who despite her hardship still puts up the most beautiful smile.

Happy Mother's Day, my wonder woman. I'm not going to say I love you cause you already know that and already hear it all the time.

I wanna say thank you. Thank you for being you. For being that Wonder Woman who's always there for us.

And yes, I love you!

Chinese New Year: Present

The time of the year where children gets new clothes, adults get a personal loan.


Flash forward to the present: Kids nowadays are more materialistic because let's face it, Apple products aren't cheap!

Adults on the other hand are faced with the dilemma of whether to increase the content of the red packets. Why? Well, a tradition of well-wishes has now because a form of extortion, which (although unspoken, it kinda) translate to: Show me the money or I'll curse you for the rest of the year!

Yup, that's right folks. Kids now have the right to curse your marriage if you don't shower them with money love.

Unlike the good ol' days where kids are content with any amount they receive in those little red envelopes, modern-day kids are most likely to tear those things open in excitement and reveal its contents. When the amount is not what they expected it to be, say RM1, they will downright call you stingy and hope that the stingy bastard (meaning you) will have a bad year, or a bad marriage (since those who are eligible to give red packets have to be married couple). Parents of those children are really not helping to ease the situation either.

"Since they only give my kid X amount this year, we should give them the same amount next year."

When kids receive their red packets, they are now told by their parents to write down the name of the person who gave the red packet to them on the red envelope itself. So that when their kids open the red packet, they will know how much their children receive from who? Then karma will be a bitch next year.

Chinese New Year: Past

So what is Chinese New Year and what's the fuss all about?

Chinese New Year is supposedly the time for celebration. The day not only marked the start of the lunar calendar, it is also, according to the Chinese folklore, the day where a monstrous beast which comes out at night every year to devour children was successfully vanquished.

The beast, conveniently dubbed "nian shou", which literally means Annual Monster, was chased away using firecrackers.

A red packet, known as "ya sui qian", is given to children to congratulate them for making it through the year. Why red? Because the color red is a symbol of good luck. So you could say that it kinda translates to: "Congratulations for not getting eaten alive, you lucky bastard!"

As a thank-you for the red packets the adults showered them with, the children will in turn 'bless' the adult with well-wishes. Think of it as something like a spell, when a kid wishes you well, everything will be smooth flowing for the rest of the year. I'm not sure how many of those came true but more and more adults caught on and soon, everybody's doing it every year.

And so, it became a tradition which lasted until today.



To be continued...


~*jessism © 20150312*~

Malaysian Airlines (MAS): Truly Dangerous

The ground crew in Taipei was the most efficient bunch of people I've ever seen. Thinking that the flight back to Kuala Lumpur couldn't be as bad; I was proven otherwise. As if the scare of flying to Taipei wasn't bad enough, the flight back from Taipei to Kuala Lumpur was even worse!

First of all, the air steward on board was downright rude. Even at budget airlines, I have not seen an air steward who looked like we owed him money and boss the passengers around. Perhaps he was having a bad day, perhaps it was that time of the month for him, or perhaps he had tendered his resignation and decided that he doesn't care about his job anymore. But I certainly did not pay to get onboard and be treated like his bitch, or to look at him scowled at other passengers. Thank goodness this flight has in-flight entertainment that I could distract myself with.

Then there's a huge negligence of aircraft safety.

I am no expert in flying an aircraft but I do know a thing or two when it comes to safety. I know that it is important for the cabin lights to be dimmed when a plane take-off or land, especially at night. This is part of the many aircraft safety measures. However, this did not happen during my flight back from Taipei to Kuala Lumpur on 6 January.

As we were approaching Kuala Lumpur International Airport, there was a routine announcement of dimming the cabin lights and for the cabin crew to be seated for landing but the lights were never dimmed! It was bright as day in the cabin and before we knew it, the plane was plunging, there was a loud thud, the plane swerved a little, a few yelps of shocked was heard in the cabin, and when I looked out of the window, we were already on the runway!

This experience is downright unpleasant, especially coming from a carrier, which was supposed to have bucked up on their safety measures and servicing after those unfortunate events! My recent experience told me that someone is definitely sleeping on the job and is still not taking the necessary action to right the wrongs! If our flight were to have crashed that day and all the passengers were injured in some ways, who would they blame? The light switch malfunctioned? Or a poltergeist turned the lights backed on?

We're talking about a flying aluminum tube with hundreds of lives onboard, who paid good money to get to where they needed to go and is hoping reach their destination safely! Both mentally and physically! And yet, these people at the Malaysian Airlines (MAS) are showing no effort of improving at all and are treating our lives like a cheap joke!

For those who are wondering why am I ranting about all these on my blog, which quite possibly has no view at all, instead of writing to MAS directly, you'll be surprise to know that if you pay a visit to their website, there is NO PLACE for you to file your complains (if any).

Even if this was submitted to them, I can foresee that there is a very high chance, I will not even hear back from them. So why bother when I can at least attempt to warn everyone else across the globe? Of course, if someone from MAS happens to see this, even better! I sure would love to hear how they are going to spin this one or compensate me for the mental torture they put me through!


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Trust in Malaysian Airlines (MAS)?!

With the list of air disasters which happened to Malaysian Airlines in 2014, one would expect the airline company to take a long hard look at the corporation and start to buck up on its air crafts' service and maintenance. Are they really doing it?

With the mysterious disappearance of MH370 and the ill-fated MH17, one would have expected Malaysian Airlines (MAS) to buck up on its air crafts' service and maintenance and improve on their services, so that they could regain the confidence of all flyers across the globe. But the question is: Are they really taking it seriously?

Trusting that the Malaysian national carrier has got to be better than what the public generally said them to be after the two unfortunate incident, I booked a two-way flight to Taiwan on MAS for my year-end trip. Let's just say that I regretted it the moment I boarded the flight.

On 24 December 2014, I headed to KLIA to catch the red eye flight to Taipei, Taiwan. It was Christmas Eve and everybody was in a festive mood. Needless to say, the passenger were all smiley and happy and can’t wait to get on the flight.

First of all the flight was late. It wasn't delayed for hours, just a 15-20mins late in arrival and boarding. Taking the prep work needed to get the aircraft ready for a 5 hours flight into consideration, I think a 15mins delay is still acceptable, for me at least.

However, when I boarded the flight, I really couldn't believe my eyes! For a quick few seconds, I thought I have boarded a local budget airline for a domestic flight, although I clearly paid for something far better. The aircraft looked cramped and there were clearly NO in-flight entertainment unit instilled!

Ok, so maybe I was expecting too much. It has been almost 6-7 years since my MAS flight to Melbourne. But clearly, I wasn't the only one who was surprised by the condition. I overheard a family which was filing into the aircraft trying to find their seats commenting on why there is no "TV" available at all the seats. The same question which crossed my mind!

While waiting for the flight to take off, I heard one of the impatient passengers asked the air steward why there are no in-flight entertainment units available, which the steward explained that our plane was "switched" last minute due to some unforeseen circumstances and he is sorry for the inconvenience caused.

So you would think that this is a fair enough explanation, right? I mean, MAS is doing their job and getting their passengers on a safer craft. This should be something to applauded, right? Wrong.

As we waited for the flight to take off, nothing happened. Moments later, the captain came on to announce that we are having some technical problem and it will take awhile longer before we could take off.

Really?! Even after switching from an aircraft that (I assume) is supposed to provide better comfort for the passengers to a lighter aircraft that does not even have an in-flight entertainment unit and is supposedly NOT suffering from any "unforeseen circumstances", the aircraft is STILL having technical problems when it comes to taking off?!! This is the point that I started to question how often they run their service maintenance on all the aircraft!

In my head, the worse scenes from a lot of disaster movies are playing in a loop! What a way to treat your passengers on Christmas night! Good job MAS!!! The only thing I hoped during that whole flight was to reach Taipei safely and to be able to tell my mom, who warned me so much about flying with MAS, that I have arrived safely and I was wrong.

As if the scare of flying to Taipei wasn't bad enough, the flight back from Taipei to Kuala Lumpur was even worse!


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